Father and Son
After watching two short clips on Forever Fever - the first having the highly-favoured son announcing on his 21st birthday dinner that he was going for a sex operation; the second portraying the son who was cross-dressed (ie. man in woman's clothes) and facing his father. It is vital to remember that the son, Leslie, said that he studied Medicine only because he wanted to live up to his parents' expectations and that he actually hated the subject all along. At age 21, he has now made a decision to stop living the kind of life that his family wanted; and it is time for him to be who he really wants to be.
In Singapore, we have to face our family and society's traditional values and judgement. To Leslie, he felt that he could only be the good son that he had always wanted to be by living out his parents' dreams for him to become a doctor. His father, in the second clip, could not even recognise him when his son came home looking for 'Hock' (his elder brother) dressed up like a woman.
Likewise in our Literature story, Father and Son , Andrew was influenced by several factors around him and decided to pursue his dreams. He also cross-dressed like Leslie and even boldly entered the Oriental Queen Competition. His father chased him out of the house like the one in Forever Fever as he claimed that he could not face his friends again. To him, he has lost a son (and thus published an obituary) because (1) his son has literally turned into a female (2) he wanted to forget his son (3) his expectations and hopes of his son had died. However, it is important to note that Andrew did not fulfil his parents' expectations by doing well in school or qualifying for the Medicine School.
Reflection question:
If a close family member of relative is Andrew, how would you and your family react?
*Remember to discuss about tradititions and expectations that your family will have and why it is wrong / acceptable to have a member of the family becoming a transvesite.
56 comments:
if one of my family memebers like andrew...i will freak out...its because it is my first time seeing boy change to girl... but if it really happen to my family members...i will try to accept because even though he change into a girl or boy... he or she is still my family memebers... =]
hey there...
if a close relative of mine were to be andrew, i would be so disappointed in him...but when i think again,there is no way i can help him...if he believed that that is what he wanted, then maybe he deserve to get what he want... my family and i will sure try to help him...as for the fact, we will sure be very disappointed...
done for now...reebik!!!Ennis
If one of my family members/relatives were to be Andrew, I will respect his decision because after all he had chosen to be a female instead of male that is his life. If that is what he wanted I will not object. But I will be sad & very disappointed in him.
Brenda
I kinda agree with Kevin in his first paragraph. If one of my family members were Andrew, I would just keep quiet(in shock) and think of his parents who have happily brought him up as a boy. Why do such a thing and hurt your loved ones? People may be affected by the Western society(am I right here?) Anyway, even if one of my family members cross-dresses, or decides to undergo a sex change operation, we should just respect it and stop harping on it and get on with our lives. Boy or girl,male or female, we should show mutual respect for one another.
if one of my brother or relative are like andrew the life of our family will be more difficult than usual and it will let all of our family with be very confused.=.= +.+ +.= T.T :) :(
cybersea
if i had relative like Andrew i would stay away from him/her...
if i meet the person outside i would ignore the person and walk like i never saw him/her.
actually i am not that cruel but to see a person change into a boy or a girl i can't accept the person.
it changes my view of image of the person and it is very for me to accept the person...
sorry...
but it can't be helped...
T.T
Rajiv
arghhhhhhhh
just for the fun of it onli...
i am a boy and i won't cry for a person whom choses to be who she or he want to be.... Kevin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i a not crying!!!!!!!!!!!
Rajiv
if one of my family members or relatives wanted to be a transexxual,i would ask if this was a joke,i'll probally ask him/her if she really want's to do this if he/she has a good reason, i will accept the fact and try to move on with life(i don't know what to do if one of my classmates becomes a transsexuals....brrr)
If Andrew was in my family,I think I will definitly be creeped out as I live with only 2 selfish,bully-type kind of bigger brothers and it could happen any time...but still it is their own decicion(my english very bad)so I can't say any thing so I'll write again next time...
If one of my family memebers was like andrew.Of course i will not accept because i will be disgust that, how can a man be like a woman, no matter what he change or go for a sex operation. Looking at his adam apple and his rough voice and legs.I can puke...yucks. But on the another hand if i think deeper,i may accept him because if he wants to be a gay-we cannot do anything, and he is after all my family member.If "can" my family and i may try to just think that we have a new sister or aunt.Let other people think what they want,like my family memeber has became a gay. SO-WHAT :)
i think is ok......even Andrew is a boy or girl or even gay he is still a human being right.so for me i would not care......
I think at first I will remind him,tell him the disadvantages of that.If he still want to transform,I will just close one eye.Because it's his choice,we must respect what he thinks.No matter his is a boy or become a girl,he or she is my family member forever.
I would wonder why will his father have this kind of son that wanted to change his gender into the opposite gender, like to play with female thing and etc.I would get very angry if this kind of thing happens in my family because usually boy should be more active in sports and etc. And, girls should be doing some other household chores etc.
If i was one of Andrew's family member,i will be shock!
For goodness sake,who would wan to change sex?Unless if he/she really have to do it,he/she might have his/her own reason for being a transvesite and i will respect his/her decision as i am his relative after all...so we should give him/her our blessing!=)
If one of my family members like Andrew...i will b angry,but i will try to accept the fact that he transvesite.
But if it really happened first la LOL touch wood...........
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if one of my family is like andrew,
i will avoid to see him or her because i hate ah gua,this kind of people can go and die la.
if one of my family member where to be Andrew, surely i were to be shocked but what can my parents or me can do..it's surely faith and GOD had made him like that..and eventhough he had physically change,i've to accept it because that person is a part of my family...=)
bubbye...lenny...
anyways...BetrAy3r is kirk..=)
yo!
guess what!!!i told my mum about our topic... she said that she would send him out of the house nude!!!the shame he face is the same as the shame my mum face!!! well, i don't blame her for that... all parents would be very disappointed in their son...
ok..tata for now..Crokk!!!
If one of my family members wants to change sex, i would be horrified as God created them to be what they are, and they themselves should be satisfied with what they are.
Although i would be very upset about this, i will try and accept him/her for who they are and not dispise them, as they cannot help but change into a transvesite.
I think that even if a person wants to crossdress or wants to become a transvesite, we should show them respect to his or her dicision.
-XoxTessAxoX
If one of my family members are like andrew,i think,at least my parents and I will accept it. They are very understanding,more than other relatives.To me,if he or she is happy being opposite sex,i really don't mind.(since he or she like it)
I be be staying away from him as i could communicate with him as he has chaged into a girl.I will be freak out but I will respect with his own decision.
If a close family member or relatives were like Andrew i would totally freak out too.
I mean why sholud he change into a woman when GOD created him as a man but i will still respect his decision and try not to freak out, after all we are a family.
But i think my family will freak out and we would try to change his mind about becoming a transvesite.
And it is totally his choice because it is his life and he has the right to do what he wants but there is limit to everything.
Himalee,2e2
although we are disappointed in him,we will respect his decision.As long as he is happy,let him be what he wants.If he needs our help,we are willing to help him because he is forever our relatives/family member.
Jasmine
If a close relative of mine were to be like Andrew, who wants to be a transvestite then i would ignore him/her cause i'll feel very disgusted to walk or even talk to a gay. And you know that its true that you will feel very 'paisai' to have a transvestite in your family member but what can you do if the person really wants to be a gay cause we can't really force a person, right?!
If one of my family member changes his/her sex, i will be very disappointed, ashamed and disgusted.
I will not be able to talk to my friends due to the problem and the changes he made.
I think in the society he will be rejected, disgraced himself and his generation would not be continued and he will not get any life partner for the rest of the life.
my parents will be very agitated. but i will support who ever is like Andrew as this is their own choice. we cannot control them therefore we have to give them moral support.
if one of my family members is like Andrew i will be dissapointed in him, as he was a guy and why he wanted to be a girl. but i will support him as he is my family member after all, and i respect his decision.
-Wensi
To danfengz,
danfeng he still your family members,if you avoid him right,he will be sad ... so i think you should try to suuport him... try it ...
...crazzzy gurl... lenn...
am nicola ...
i agree to what you say...
to tingfong(cuty J)...
Wow!!! you so kind heart... i think what you had said is so right... !!! !!! i support you man !!!
=]
Hi jasmine,
i agree with you!! Even if it is a bit strange we should support him as he is our loved one after all!!
-Tessa
Hi Wensi,
i would also be in shock to see him change so much but we'll try to accept him.
-tessa
To sn0wie
you don't need to call people crazy you know... to your first comment,if have not seen it before...than were you awake when Miss Ang showed us the video...it showed a boy changing into a girl...
Adriel Yeo
2E2
to sn0wie
sorry,see wrong...some stupid girl call herself crazy...must be crazy
any way i'm only writing because u asked me to and i've got no better thing to do...ok???
Adriel Yeo
2E2
i like it
i can see other comment also so exciting
Being born Cebu in the philipinnes where transvesite acceptance is strongly accepted in the community. I believe tht if i was andrew's or leslie's relative.i would not let hatred get on top of my head,but rather respect him as a human being who is comfortable in his own skin.
Back home,people think of them as entertainers who make them happy but in singapore,its different.The society think of them as hecklers who ruin ther family image.My point is tht,its really up to the society whether they accept them or nt.
To all:
Please be reminded to write your names in the entry because I wouldn't know who's who judging from the various and weird nicknames. So, I would just have to delete these 'anonymous' commentors' entries and deem students not done their blog-homework.
Eg. Who's cybersea?
I don't know the reason why some people want to change their gender when they are naturally created as what they are suppose to be!!!
Simply i could say that if Andrew was my relative, i and my family would have detested him for changing his gender.
my own personal world OR Panda Boy belong to Chan Guan Xiong's usernames.
to kr_sora,
aiyo...do not like that say people name ... is just a nickname ...relax... btw is is crazzzy gurl ???
my personal world...
why didn't you introduce yourself? i find it unfair...
in fact, it's not good to keep everything all by youself...for the next entry, intro okay..don't shy-shy...but seriously,i agree on you so much...
kh sora...
i agree that snowie should not call people crazy.. nicola, don't call people crazy!!
Reebik!!!ennis
to animegal_dreamstreet:
STOP using incomplete sentences, dialect and Singlish in your entry! You have to repost your comment.
Arghhhh....too many nicknames,i cant tell who is who!!!! it wouldn't kill anyone to write their name at the bottom(so that i know who made the comment) sheesh!at least someone can see what my name is :(
if one of my family member or relative likes andrew ...i will keep away from him and ask my sibling not to near him... maybe one day ... i will try to accept it and ask for answer why he became like that... because still my relative or my family member...
IF MYrelative is like andrew ... i will to accept it ...because he also my family member
If one of them really is...nothing to worry about.It's ok! Just accept reality and try to forget it. If that is what he wants to be or what he wants to do, I will support him if can. Depending on the situtation, if I'm able to support I will try my utmost. But the reputation of the family will be ruined by him and the family will be very quiet and it doesn;t feel peaceful at all. It seems like the everyday life so boring.
That time I have to type short so that i can copy and paste when i enter this blog again. My sis don't let me use neither does my mum so I got really pissed off with them. My mum is biased!!! This time I secretly use.
If one of my family members or relatives would ever happen to become a transvesite, or have an interest in changing their sex, I would be really curious about it. At the same time, I would feel awkward and disgraced by what they did or what they plan to do. Personally, I would not really feel sad or shocked over it, unless he is close to me. If it happens to be one of my siblings, I would really take pity on my mum and dad, as they are the ones who brought him up, and I believe that they have high hopes of him or her. I would feel disheartened over the situation, and would feel weird and awkward when I am with him. Overall, I would try my best to accept it in reality as I think I should respect his decision.
if one of my family members like andrew...i think i cannot accept it.i cannot understand and i don't want to try to understand why he or she change into a opposite sex.Maybe i am cold-blooded.......
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